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Emotionally or Verbally Abused Assessment

Am I being emotionally or verbally abused?

Most people recognize the signs of physical or sexual abuse, but many of the signs of emotional or verbal abuse are much less obvious. Victims are often so 'worn down' they do not recognize the abuse. This assessment is designed to teach the signs of emotional or verbal abuse by a family member (partner, parent, or child), but emotional or verbal abuse can be inflicted by a boss, co-worker, care-giver, or anyone who controls an important part of your life.Answer these few questions to learn more about the signs of emotional or verbal abuse and help you determine if you may be a victim.

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Tessa   My boyfriend tells me what I can and cant talk about. When I am talking about something he doesnt want to hear...he tells me that is enough. He calls me clumsy. When I ask him a question he sometimes rolls his eyes or tells me it was a dumb question. He has a quick temper. He is 6ft 2 and a lot bigger than me. I am now scared to say anything to him because of his reaction. He has two dogs that he loves and shows them a lot of affection. He wont touch me anymore. He gets very angry if I say anything about it. I am very depressed and sad. I dont know how much of this I can take. I am afraid I am just over reacting. - 9/22/2015 8:53:20 AM

Erika   My mom tends to argue with me, a lot. When we argue, she tends to bombard me with questions I don't have the answer to ("why are you like this?") and she gets frustrated and gives a speech about how she will always understand. Then, she cries, and at the end of the day, I have to go and apologize without any response than "thank you", even after I share my feelings of hurt at her reactions. Then, she starts to say how everyone in the house tries to deal with me (my moods/mood swings, my asocial attitude...) and how I don't care, or "I'm not trying". Another example of her usual behavior that brought me here out of concern was how I ask to do something, like read together, or spend time, and she either says "no", or: "yes", only to keep delaying the activity until I give it up. By this point, I don't ask for anything. I may have depression, and a year ago, I was flunking class and having trouble concentrating because of how tired and how unmotivated I was. My mom yelled at me at how irresponsible I was, and (I tend to panic-laugh/smile when yelled at/hit) I started smiling. She slaps me and yells again before telling me to get ready; we were leaving to the store for my step-father's birthday present shopping. There was another time, in the car, where my stepsister fell asleep and I didn't want her head on my lap, so mom yelled to sit down, and I started crying and telling her I try so hard but SHE doesn't care. My feelings were ignored. During family counseling, she always cries, and I express that I don't want to be there because she always cries and she starts saying again how everyone tries so hard but it's like I don't care/try/want things to get better, so then I cried. My mom doesn't like it when I cry, and often discourages me from ever crying, saying it's not worth it. My friend, whose sister tends to get hit often by their dad, heard my concerns and then mentioned emotional abuse. Concerned, looked it up. My mother applies to most of it to the point it makes her the textbook example. - 9/7/2015 2:08:49 PM

Jen   I feel emotionally abused by my father. Everytime I say something stupid, like in a moment of anger, or refuse to follow through on a direct order, he abandons me at home or in some store parking lot-WHEN HE IS MY ONLY RIDE. Especially irritating when my car is unavalible. And I'm 23, I feel stuck living at home, but where else can I go? I have no job or source of income to save for a place of my own. - 5/3/2015 4:49:49 PM

Angelique   I get emotionally and verbally abused by my Dad for years. I am 22 now and he still hurts me. I never feel good enough or worthy enough. He constantly puts me down. He hit me in the face when I was 19 years old. I feel insecure and unsure of myself. - 12/30/2014 5:58:57 PM

Julie   My elderly father is emotionally abusive to me and I'm his main care giver. He lived with me a while going through a divorce caused by his anger issues (which he denies he has). I think he has some dementia on top of it all. He makes sure before I leave seeing him that he makes me mad before I leave, demanding something that he knows I can't help him with. He keeps calling the sheriff on me and my husband because we won't bring him a battery charger to start his truck. I won't let him drive (it's not safe for him and especially for others). My friends (and husband) tell me to be done with him but none of my brothers or sisters will take on the responsibility. He has skin cancer and other health issues and if I don't help, he will NOT get the care he needs. It's so mentally exhausting. What to do?? - 12/29/2014 2:08:37 PM

Duncan   My brother drinks. When he is drunk he often times get violent with himself and sometimes things. He threatens me. I get very frightened. I can defend myself, but I feel that would lead to consequences to my nephew. I live in fear that he will leave and take him with him. I also don't want him to leave. I love him, he's my brother. I feel trapped. - 8/6/2014 5:36:47 PM

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